Was the prophet muhammad (SAW) a Pedo?
Missionaries often claim that the prophet was a pedo, because of his marriage to Aisha.
Let's look at the definition of a child:
“a young human being below the age of puberty or below the legal age of majority.”
Google. Oxford languages.
So a individual who hasn't hit puberty
Because the prophet married her (wrote the marriage contract) at 6 and consummated the marriage when she was 9.
Sahih al-Bukhari 5133
Now, the prophet did not touch her nor lived with her until she fully hit puberty. And at 6 she started to hit puberty.
To prove she started to hit puberty at 6, let's look at these 2 sources:
Narrated Aisha: The Prophet engaged me when I was a girl of six (years). We went to Medina and stayed at the home of Bani-al-Harith bin Khazraj. THEN I GOT ILL AND MY HAIR FELL DOWN. LATER ON MY HAIR GREW (again)
Sahih al-Bukhari volume 5, Book 58, Hadith 234
Dr Lisa Akbari says: “Studies show that hair loss affects approximately one third of all women. Although hair loss is most commonly seen after menopause, it can begin AS EARLY AS PUBERTY.”
Every Woman’s Guide to Beautiful Hair at Any Age, by Lisa Akbari page 70 -71
Now we know she started to hit puberty at 6, lets prove she fully hit puberty at 9.
Aisha herself said: "When the girl becomes 9 years old, she has become a woman."
Jami at-Tirmidhi 1109 (in the arabic)
And that's referring to herself, at 9 she was a woman.
Narrated Aisha, :
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) married me when I was seven or six. When we came to Medina, some women came. according to Bishr’s version: Umm Ruman came to me when I was swinging. They took me, made me prepared and decorated me. I was then brought to the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ), and he took up cohabitation with me when I was nine. She halted me at the door, and I burst into laughter.
Abu Dawud said: That is to say: I menstruated.
Sunan Abu Dawud Book 41, Hadith 4915
As you can see she menstruated at 9, even big scholars in islam say she has matured when the marriage was consummated.
Tabari says: that she was so young that she stayed in her parents’ home and the marriage was consummated there later when she had reached puberty.”
Karen Armstrong, Muhammad: A Biography of the Prophet, page 157
Maliki scholar Al-Dawudi’s conclusion which he concludes with
“And Aishah’s body had been matured”
sharh Sahih Muslim 9/207 by Imam Nawawi
She was not a child when the prophet consummated the marriage with her.
3. Now you may say, how can a 9 year old fully hit puberty?
Let's look at these sources:
In general, young people who come from Mediterranean countries, or countries relatively close to the Equator, tend to have an earlier age at puberty than those from more Northern or Southern societies.”
John Bancroft, Human Sexuality and Its Problems, p. 191.
Imam Al sha’fi said “I have seen many girls in Yemen undergo menses (reach the age of puberty) at the age of nine.”
Dhahabi, Siyar A’lam an-Nubala’, Vol. 10, p. 91
In San‘aa’ I saw a grandmother who was twenty-one years old; she reached puberty at the age of nine and gave birth at the age of ten, and her daughter reached puberty at the age of nine and gave birth at the age of ten.
As-Sunan al-Kubra by al-Bayhaqi vol 1 page 319
For it is usual in those hot countries as it is all over India, which is in the same clime with Arabia, for women to be ripe (reach puberty) for marriage at that age, and also to bear children the year following.
Prideaux, the life of Mahomet, p. 52
As you can see it's completely possible for a 9 year old to fully hit puberty.
4. Now the age of consent in islam is puberty, and also throughout history the age of consent was puberty, let's look at these sources:
Also, in contrast to modern Western society where social age is closely linked to chronological age, in many “traditional” societies, stages of maturation are acknowledged in defining age.’
Siân Halcrow and Nancy Tayles, The Bioarchaeological Investigation of Childhood and Social Age, p. 203.
“Age of consent throughout history has usually coincide with the age of puberty”
Age of consent: A historical overview
Now let's look at what our scholars has said:
According Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen:
“It is not permissible (for the father) to marry off his daughter if she did not reach puberty. Because if her permission is required, her permission at that age is not deemed. ….
This is the right view: the father is not permitted to marry off her daughter except after puberty and when she reaches puberty, he is not permitted to marry her off except after her permission.
Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, al-Sharh al-Mummti’ ‘Ala Zaad al-Mustanqa’, Vol. 12, pp. 57-58
5. lets look at the ruling for consummate the marriage/having sexual relations with your wife in islam:
“ it’s not allowed for the young that cannot have sexual intercourse, until she reach the stage of being able to endure it, but it’s corrected not to minimize it because it’s different from one girl to another”
Sharih Fatih Al-Qadir Vol.3 Page.383
Imam Nawawi narrated this is the view of the three Imams of Fiqh; i.e. Abu Hanifah, Shafi’i, and Malik:
“Malik, Shafi’i and Abu Hanifah said: This is measured by her capability of the sexual relationship and it varies from individual to individual and it is not limited to a certain age.”
Sharh Sahih Muslim, Vol. 9, p. 206
“a marriage could not be consummated until both bride and groom were physically mature”
muftis and Matrimony: Islamic Law and Gender in Ottoman Syria and Palestine page 271
“If she is skinny and feeble, not capable of sexual relations and she may be medically harmed (by doing so), the husband is not permitted to consummate the marriage, even if she is old.”
Al-Fatawa al-Hindiyah, Vol. 1, p. 287
As you can see there are rules in order to sleep with your wife
She has to be physical mature (hit puberty)
Be able to endure it. (have intercourse safely and not get hurt when doing it)
A child would obviously get hurt during intercoruse, so it's clear we cannot sleep with anyone who hasn't hit puberty according to Islam.
6. Now let's talk about the marriage contract.
Yes it was written when she was 6 years old but writing the marriage contract doesn't mean you can live with the girl, touch her or do anything with her. You guys aren't married yet. The prophet did not live with her, did anything with her until she fully hit puberty which was at 9.
“A marriage could be contracted before either party was ready for sexual intercourse, but a marriage could not be consummated until both bride and groom were physically mature”
“Muftis and Matrimony: Islamic Law and Gender in Ottoman Syria and Palestine page 271.
7. How can a 9 year old consent?
The problem here is, people focus on the age and think that because she was 9. She was clueless and very immature. Which isn’t the case because a few years later, she participated in wars. Do you think a supposed immature kid would have the courage to participate in a war? No. because mental maturity doesn’t come within age, it comes within experiences in the person’s life. A 15 year old can be more mentally mature than a 21 year old.
“Chronological age is not a particularly good indicator [of maturity], but it’s something we need to do for practical purposes,” says Laurence Steinberg, the distinguished university professor of psychology at Temple University. “We all know people who are 21 or 22 years old who are very wise and mature, but we also know people who are very immature and very reckless”
https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/01/when-are-you-really-an-adult/422487/
8. Can a 9 year old be sexually mature?
Getting sexual urges happen after when a male or female hits puberty.
So if a 9 year old male or female fully hits puberty, they are gonna have some sexual urges. And that's completely normal.
9. Now throughout history, it was normal to marry early
“Thomas, Lord Berkeley, was contracted to Margaret, daughter of Gerald Warren, Lord Lisle, in the forty-first year of Edward III; and by reason of her tender age – she was then only about seven years old.”
E. J. Wood. The Wedding Day in All Ages and Countries. New York: Harper & Bros, 1869, pp. 209-210.
“It needs to be remembered that many Medieval widows were not old, important heiresses were often married between the ages of 5 and 10 and might find themselves widowed while still in their teens.”
Margaret Wade Labarge, A Medieval Miscellany, p. 52.
“At what age is a person capable of making an informed decision about whether or not to engage in sex? Would it be7,10, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, or 21? Over the last 300 years, all the ages listed above were thought to be that magic age at which one could make such a decision, and all the ages listed above have, at various times, been inscribed into law as the age of consent to sex.”
Adolescent Sexuality: A Historical Handbook and Guide by Carolyn Cocca page 15
“Portugal, Spain, Denmark and the Swiss canons, initially set the age of consent at 10–12 years and then raised it to between 13 and 16 years in the second half of the 19th century. Historically, the English common law set the age of consent to range from 10- 12. In the United States, by the 1880s, most states set the age of consent at 10-12, and in one state, Delaware, the age of consent was only 7. Before that, children were considered to graduate into adulthood with the onset of puberty.”
What’s Wrong in America: A Look at Troublesome Issues in Our Country By Arthur Siccan
As you can see, throughout history, it was normal to marry young, even 200 years ago, they married women at a young age. Aisha fully hit puberty at 9, as I proved before in the article, so she was not a child. Now when did people start to criticize the marriage? Was it John of damascus? We know he was one of the first critics yet he didn't point out anything about the marriage. During the beginnings of the 1900’s is when people started to question marriage. Because then the age of consent rose up. 500 years ago. No one had a problem with it. There was no such thing as “muhammed is a pedo” back then. Just recently..i wonder why.
10. Did the prophet groomed Aisha when she was 6?
This is not true, because he wouldn't have married Aisha, if it weren’t for a female companion, Khawla bint hakim. She advised the prophet to marry her. Also, the female companion gave two options, a widow, and aisha. If the prophet loved children, he would've picked Aisha first. But he chose the widow first. But it didn't work out because of her family. But the marriage was about to happen, she consented. But it didn't work out at the end of the day. But then he sent the female companion to send a marriage proposal.
So he didn't go looking for her, rather it was a suggestion. And the reason why he told the female companion to go send the marriage proposal to her family was because he got a dream from Allah to marry her.
Narrated `Aisha:
Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said to me, "You were shown to me twice (in my dream) before I married you. I saw an angel carrying you in a silken piece of cloth, and I said to him, 'Uncover (her),' and behold, it was you. I said (to myself), 'If this is from Allah, then it must happen.' Then you were shown to me, the angel carrying you in a silken piece of cloth, and I said (to him), 'Uncover (her), and behold, it was you. I said (to myself), 'If this is from Allah, then it must happen.' "
Sahih al-Bukhari 7012
As you can see, he didn't go looking for a child for marriage. It was a suggestion and then after sometime. It was a command from Allah to make the prophet tell the female companion to send the marriage proposal.
11. Aisha playing with dolls
Because of this hadith:
I used to play with the dolls in the presence of the Prophet, and my girlfriends also used to play with me. When Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) used to enter (my dwelling place) they used to hide themselves, but the Prophet would call them to join and play with me. (Playing with the dolls and similar images is forbidden, but it was allowed for `Aisha at that time, as she was a little girl, not yet reached the age of puberty.) (Fath-ul-Bari page 143, Vol.13)
Sahih al-Bukhari 6130
First of all this hadith took place before the consummation of the marriage. So it wouldn't matter if she wasnt an adult yet. But the argument of her being a child is because of her playing with dolls and if we read the commentary. She was allowed to play with dolls because she was immature. But that's an opinion. Other great scholars disagree like imam al nasa'i said that playing with dolls at ANY AGE is permissible for a woman. And ibn Hajar says that's the correct view. So as you can see. Using this “aisha playing with dolls” argument supposedly automatically means she's a child wont work. Because your evidence is an opinion. Not a fact.
You may say that only children play with dolls. Well that's not ALWAYS the case.
Claudia Mitchel says:
“Collectible dolls are often given as presents to girls by doting parents and grandparents, as well as being bought as personal items by adult women.”
Girl Culture. by Dr. Juliette Peers, volume 1, page 36
.”DURING THE 1920S, IT WAS TRENDY FOR ADULT WOMEN TO CARRY DOLLS IN PUBLIC.”
Ibid. page 28
Many adults play with legos. Does that mean they are children?
12. Other religions:
In judaism you can marry a 3 year old and have sexual intercrouse with a 3 year old:
According to the Babylonian Talmud:
“Mishnah: A girl of the age of three years and one day may be betrothed by intercourse…Gemara: Our Rabbis taught: A girl of the age of three years may be betrothed by intercourse; so R. Meir. But the Sages say: Only one who is three years and one day old…
Gemara: Our Rabbis taught: A girl of the age of three years may be betrothed by intercourse; so R. Meir. But the Sages say: "Only one who is three years and one day old.”
Babylonian Talmud: Tractate Niddah 44b
In hinduism you can marry girls who hasn't hit puberty:
A girl should be given in marriage before (she attains the age of) puberty
22.He who neglects it, commits sin
23.Some (declare, that a girl shall be given in marriage) before she wears clothes.
Sacred Laws of Arya:Gautama 18:21
A man, aged thirty years, shall marry a maiden of twelve who pleases him, or a man of twenty-four a girl eight years of age; if (the performance of) his duties would (otherwise) be impeded, (he must marry) sooner. ”
Manu 9:94
A person of thirty years of age should wed a girl of ten years of age called a Naganika. Or, a person of one and twenty years of age should wed a girl of seven years of age.”
Mahabharata XLIV (p.18)
My daughter has come to a marriageable age; I have no money. Her age has exceeded ten years; the marriageable age limit has been exceeded. Alas! What am I to do?”
Devi Bhagavatam 3.27.40 (Swami Vijnanananda Translation)
”…As soon as a woman attains the age of puberty, she immediately becomes very much agitated by sexual desire. It is therefore the duty of the father to get his daughter married before she attains puberty…”
A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada on Srimad Bhagavatam 4.25.42
Even Sadhguru a famous Hindu scholar and apologist admits that people generally used to marry earlier:
“It’s a tragic situation. We should realize that we are a society in transition. There was a time when girls would be married at 15. Now they are not married till 25 and 30.
Now you made it to the end. As you can see. Aisha was physically, mentally and sexually mature before the consummation of the marriage. Therefore the prophet did not have intercorse with a child. This whole article goes step by step in detail to prove how its not paedophilia. All sources are there and maybe in the future i will make a more detailed article on this topic. If there is a need for another one.
So to answer “is the prophet a pedo”?
No. he married an adult. That's not paedophilia.
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