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Adult breastfeeding in Islam #1 Salim’s situation

 


Adult breastfeeding in Islam #1  Salim’s situation.



Hadith used: 


Salim has attained (puberty) as men attain, and he understands what they understand, and he enters our house freely, I, however, perceive that something (rankles) in the heart of Abu Hudhaifa, whereupon Allah's Apostle (ﷺ) said to her: Suckle him and you would become unlawful for him, and (the rankling) which Abu Hudhaifa feels in his heart will disappear. She returned and said: So I suckled him, and what (was there) in the heart of Abu Hudhaifa disappeared.


  • Muslim 1453b





Backstory: 


Before the ruling of adoption was banned by Allah. Salim was the family’s adopted son. Because adoption was banned. He stopped being their adopted son. And now he's just a normal guy. He still lived with the family but as time went on, he hit puberty. So it's like another older guy in the house walking freely. Who is a non mahram for the Wife. That's why in the hadith it says when Salim attained puberty. And walked in the house freely. There was some discomfort in Abu Hudahifa’s heart. As said in the hadith above  “something (rankles) in the heart of Abu Hudhaifa,”. 



*Now before I keep going. I would like to point out that this was a one time thing and only for the case of Salim and his family.*




Because of the discomfort of the Man’s heart.

 ( Because he realizes that there's a grown man that's no longer his “son” looking at his wife without a hijab etc. )


The prophet gave a solution. He told the wife to breastfeed Salim, so he can become mahram. But wait. It's not exactly what you think.


You might think that the prophet is telling a woman to breastfeed a grown man. Well no. not exactly.




Refutation: 



The word breastfeeding in Arabic, can mean either direct contact with the mouth and breast or it can mean the milk is put into a cup for the person to drink the milk.





 Imam Shafi said:


 "Milking the milk from the breasts into a container can also mean suckling a person in arabic.  



  • Al Haawi Al Kabir volume 11 page 372




So in this hadith, where the prophet told the wife to breastfeed Salim, its meant by milking the breast into a cup and giving the cup to Salim to drink so he can become a mahram. This is said by Abu Hanifa where he explains this Hadith. 

 


Imam Abu Hanifa said:


 "Suckling is also known in Arabic as milking in a container as the hadith says that the prophet told Sahla to suckle Salim 5 sucklings and he will be a relative to you.


 Imam Abu Hanifa says: And it is well known that the word “suckle him”  means through a cup or container and not directly from her nipple since it's forbidden directly, and so it's clear that “suckle him” meant to pour milk in a cup and not directly. 


  • Ibid 




As you can see here. The milk was poured into a cup for salim to drink and the prophet did NOT order a woman to breastfeed (directly) an adult. Rather give a more easier option which isn't haram and would get the job done.  



Here is some more evidence where the milk was poured into a cup:



Abu Umar bin Abd al-Barr said:


 The characteristic of suckling an adult is to milk him and give him a drink. 


Adult breastfeeding as we mentioned is to milk the breast into a cup and give the cup to the child, and not directly as the scholars of Islam are in consensus that it is not permissible for strangers to touch the nipple or suckle directly"

  • Al Tamheed Vol.8 Page 257 ( Ibn Abdul Bar’s book)





Another point: 


If you still think that Salim had DIRECT contact with the women’s breasts. Then why In the hadith it says, the husband had discomfort in his heart and it went away after the suckling ( I.e pouring the milk into a cup). 


The husband felt uncomfortable letting an adult enter his house and look at his wife freely but had no problem and was happy letting a man suck on his wife’s breasts?


 That doesn't make sense. So just using the hadith itself, It proves that the job was done in a way that is not haram. Aka pouring the breast milk into a cup and not direct contact with the breasts. 




It's clear that the prophet muhammed peace be upon him did not order a woman to directly breastfeed an adult.




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